Meeting with a divorce attorney together with your spouse may seem counter-intuitive but in Collaborative we have found doing so really sets the tone for the rest of the process. Meeting with an attorney together to learn about your process options can help inform your spouse of all the divorce options available to the two of you and help you make a mutually informed decision about how you will divorce before getting into substantive matters and pre-maturely advising you of outcomes. It can also help him or her feel as if the process would be a safe one, since you are starting it together and learning the same information at the same time. Additionally, you can both research Collaborative divorce at CollaborativeLaw.org or CollaborativePractice.com